Hi all, i've got a girlfriend who lives far away in another different country from mine. I've met her on the internet about 6 months ago and we get along really well. we could share just about anything. Last december we met up and her parents really liked me that time and asked me to return as soon as i could. Apparently we are still students in the university. im 24 and she's 20, i will be finishing my studies next year while she will be finishing in another 2 years. We've got plan to get married in 3 years time if everything goes well between us still. Well During New Year, things changed a little as disagreement from her grandparents caused her dad to disagree on our relationship. We've gone through this together for 2 months until recently. She's a strong person i've no doubt. She told me that her parents argued because of us as both parents has different opinion about our relationship. Her mum agrees while her dad disagrees. Well she told me that she would tell her family as well as some of her not-so-close friends that we are now over and jus stay as friends and keeping in touch. she will not even say "I love you" to me until after 3 years according to her. she doesn't mind that i still keep our relationship still let my friends and parents know that we are still in relationship. I trust her, but somehow felt a little insecure after this even though i know i have to stay strong in this. At least this is what i've understood from her. and she doesn't even allow me to have video calls with her anymore, as she said that it will have her miss me more. she said that she want us to concentrate on our studies first at the meantime. and we can resume our relationship as lovers when we've both completed our studies and when her parents will probably have less control over her when she is older. and hopefully by that time, her parents will be able to see our love and agrees for us to be together.
I've plan to visit her this year in July, but she told me not to at the moment. she prefers me to visit during December when hopefully her dad will forget about this whole thing. and she even mention if its possible that i do not meet her parents. i understand that she doesn't want her parents to argue and her dad to get angry and tell her lots of negative things. But Should i visit her parents if i do visit? i feel i do not respect them if i don't. and are there any hidden meanings to what is going on here? or is it just the way she told me it is. im not with her, and she hardly can go online. so im a little doubtful and worried.
should i worry? is she keeping anything from me or is she telling me that i can keep our relationship in my heart just because she doesn't want to hurt me? im just feeling a little of mixed feelings, trust and doubt. Have any one experience the same? Does anyone have any advise, opinion or suggestions? i really do love her. what should i do?
ill really appreciate any advise or suggestions. Thanks!
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