So here's the run down. I'm a freshman in college. I live in the states, and a little over a year ago I met this German exchange student who went to my school. He had a girlfriend when we met, but by the time she cheated on him we had become pretty close friends. We started "talking"... that awkward but somehow wildly exciting stage where neither of you is totally sure whether the romantic feeling is mutual, and you're just kind of testing things out. Flirting a lot, spending tons of time together, constantly texting. So after a few months I asked him to prom, and we started (officially!) dating soon after. We dated for two months before he had to go back to Germany, and we decided to go ahead and just try the long-distance thing. We both had really strong feelings for each other and it was just too good of a thing to give up without a fight. Everything went well for three more months. A lot of tears were shed, i missed him all the time, but we were still in love. Being in college kind of shocked me into the reality that if this is going to work, we need to be planning on being together in the end. In other words, the plan has to be marriage. In other, OTHER words, one of us has to move countries. We had what I would say was our first serious, realistic talk about how to make our relationship work, and in the end we broke up because we're both just so young. He still has a year of high school to finish, and then he's planning on going to college in Germany. I'm in school for 4 more years after this. It just seems so overwhelming. And MARRIAGE?? I'm 19! I don't want to have to think about getting married yet!!
So now 2 months have passed since we broke up, and I'm still just as head over heels for this guy as ever. Seriously, he's my world. We still tell each other "I love you". I didn't think I could feel more lonely until we broke up. It was like he had died or something... cause I feel like the world is just ripping him away from me before we get the chance to live our relationship out. So, in 9 days, after 6 months of not seeing him, I am flying to Germany to stay with him and his family for a week. I don't know what's going to come of it, but at the least i guess we can be together one last time before calling it quits for good. However... maybe the opposite will happen and we'll decide to give it one more try??
My question is this: Could it ever actually work? Is there a way we can work past the distance, the 6 hour time difference, and the ocean that separates us? Even though we're both young and have our whole lives ahead of us? Is it crazy for me to keep holding on... or should I let go before it gets worse? I appreciate your input.
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