I love him but I'm not sure if our LDR has a future
We met while he was working in NYC, he returned to Europe where he has a solid career, owns a house, friends blah blah blah basically a life I'm not a part of :-(. I don't know if and when he'll return to the states to live, we've been apart for 3 months now and between now till November 2010 he has already committed to job assignments that will keep him traveling in Europe.
When November gets here and he's more "settled" with work I have no guarantees. I trust him and know his crazy busy Schedule, plus we talk on skype at least 30mins each day if not for 2 hours. Also he's much older than me and very shy, old fashion and refuses to have phone sex?!?!? I'm frustrated because I have nothing to look forward to in this relationship once November is here I'm not certain if his work plans will change again.
I finish my program in May and would love to make plans to be in the same continent with him but his job keeps him traveling and he isn't quite ready to commit on the level where someone has to pack up and move to the another continent for the other. I don't know if it's worth it to commit to a relationship for 1 year and knowing that I may not ever live in the same country with him. I couldn't possibly move my life in a year for a guy I only dated 2 months in the flesh and 10 months apart but I'm open to the idea but he's not fond of it.
I don’t know when we'll see each other again before Nov 2010. I'm fully committed and would love to spend the rest of my life with him but he's not sure about us. The pessimistic side of me thinks he's stringing me along since his job won't allow him the time to have a serious relationship but he can afford the time for a 30-2 hrs per a day for a skype relationship. I'm torn because I love this guy. I get lots of offers from men that are local but none of them capture me like did and I only want him. Although we're in a monogamous relationship, this week I plan on asking him to take a decision on opening our relationship because I'm dying of loneliness and tired of waiting with no assurance.
HELP!!! Should I end it or have an open relationship?
PS- this is my first LDR and I'm sad about considering an open relationship but I don't feel like I have much of a choice anymore.
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