he's always away and seems too busy for me

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we've been together for two years and it's so painful to watch him leave for another town. Before he left, we agreed to talk more. But now, it seems as if his friends get most of his time. He barely calls and doesn't communicate in other ways. It's so hard for me because before him leaving, we used to see each other everyday. It feels like breaking up each time hes away and I sometimes sit by the phone, not having the mood to do anything else

reizo · Posted: Tue Apr 14, 2009 7:50 am Post subject:

be strong.

tell him what you feels about your current situation, try to talk about it.

Inuyushi · Posted: Tue Aug 18, 2009 1:24 am Post subject:

I know exactly how you feel! My girlfriend and I used to talk atleast 2 hours a day, and text every hour. We would say hi in the morning, I would take long lunches to talk to her, and then for like 2 hours when I would go to bed. I am currently on business in another state and she (at the time) was getting ready to go to Singapore. The weekend she went to Singapore just about killed me. She got on Facebook when she got in, and 24 hours after that but then for some reason went two days witout talking to me. Keep in mind I am away from my family and out of state and she was my only communication and we shared alot throughout the day. She was helping me soooo much. But she got super busy in Singapore and saw that our relationship was strong enough to last not talking. I wish to believe that, but I still suffer. And to make things worse, when we do talk I attack her for never being on to talk. And it makes her feel like crap. And then I feel like crap because I have never made my girlfriend feel bad. Any of them.

My side: She is online about 10 mins to 2 hours a day. We talk sure, but she doesn't share much. She doesn't like to talk about work. The Problem: work is all she does now. So she wants me to talk....what's on my mind? How little we've talked and how I wanna know more about her....but she doesn't wanna talk about work. So I hurt her, and she doesn't wanna talk about anything! Ugh

Her side: She's extremely busy, she doesn't have time. She want's to enjoy a new country and not be on the computer all the time. She is new to emailing and IM's and finds it hard to express herself. She is way better in person. The problem: we're 9000 miles away. This just hurts both of us.

I know the usual tip is "be strong" but come on....help me out here. Am I supposed to be happy only talking maybe 10 minutes a day....a week? And emails once a day that are filled with "yes you hurt me, but I dont want to talk about that so I'm going to just not talk" I need help!

to the op (original poster)...sorry if I wasn't any help....I feel your pain, how is a relationship supposed to work if you dont talk? I dont know. I too feel like I have been dumped and she has left me for her job. I'm sorry you feel this way. IT SUCKS!!

rachel · Posted: Wed Apr 21, 2010 2:23 am Post subject:

so how did this work out for you guys. i can tell you one thing is that the man that replied needed to chill out. i am the same way as your girlfriend was and we are still dating 3 yrs. when u do that you just push her away. to many fish in the sea for that foolishness and you come off as needy and a pest.