met on the internet...living together soon? confused!

[willow]

we met a year and a half ago online (on secondlife) and have visited back and forth about 5-6 times for weeks at a time. just came from a six week time there. we are planning another visit in a month or so. it is pretty agonizing for me because my bf and i want to get engaged and married and live in the same country. It is so hard to leave family etc. I am at the moment thinking about living there. I am having issues and resentments about the comming and going. its very hard to have someone you love comming in and out of your life. I could use some advice or stories of people with similar issues

. we love each other but this time when i came home, i have lots of things going on. and i dont know if its stress of that interfering. i have surgery comming up,,, and i know he wont be there. im not sure if its these emotions getting in the way or if this relationship just isnt working. it would be so much easier if he wasn't thousands and thousands of miles away.

[cmonmiracle]

I'm in the same boat as you. My SO and I have 'officially' been together for nearly a year now, and have had extended visits back and forth. I just spent 3 months there and now I'm back... it's a really tough adjustment. He'll be moving here eventually but probably not for another 6 months or so. When that happens, we'll be living together which I wouldn't normally do in a 'short-distance' relationship.

We're doing fine, but I feel like I need to know when we'll see each other again so I can have something to look forward to and to make this time go by faster. Think about the times you were together in person - how did you feel then? That should help you figure out if the relationship is working. I agree that it would be easier without the distance, but think about how much its worth to finally be together.