Money Issue??? Help!!

ladycandy00 · Posted: Sun Oct 05, 2008 7:26 pm Post subject: Money Issue??? Help!!

SO I live in AZ, single parent and I am in school. My guy lives in Il and makes good money.
The thing that makes it hard is the cost for airfare. My mother seem to think he should always pay for the airline tickets to go see him. I dont feel like its right to have him pay. What is the proper way?? he pay or i pay?

Jessica · Posted: Mon Oct 06, 2008 2:30 am Post subject: It depends

Hi,

I guess it depends, are you the one always traveling to him? If it is the case, then you should share the cost of the airfare, otherwise if once you are going to see him and then he comes to see you in theory you should pay for your own ticket.
After, if he earns a good living and you don't, he could choose to pay for your tickets, but it needs to come from him, I don't think you should 'force' him...

Hope this helps

ladycandy00 · Posted: Mon Oct 06, 2008 2:55 pm Post subject: thanks

Yes it helps. My mom seems to think he should always pay no matter what

Kate · Posted: Wed Oct 08, 2008 9:18 am Post subject:

Is it the father of your kid?

ladycandy00 · Posted: Wed Oct 08, 2008 3:12 pm Post subject:

no, my son's father is not in the picture in any way.

Posted: Mon Nov 10, 2008 1:22 am Post subject: Who pays

Just tell him that as much as you want to see him, you simply cannot afford it. Let him decide. ANyway, i think he should be coming to you, not you to him.

Posted: Tue Dec 23, 2008 7:19 pm Post subject:

i dont have a good job. at all. and i dont have money really, but i would not let my girlfriend pay for my ticket. i do what i have to do to see her, work extra days, take side jobs...she pays for my hotel and thats it. i pay for everything else, food...etc...
i would pay for all of it if i wasnt a college student with a failing job.
I would say that he had better a really good reason not to come to you.
As for your mom. Haha, who is she to make that call? she sounds like the presumptuous kind, who will hold anyone you date against her immeasurable ruling bar...i would say, tell your mom to take a hike with her unfair opinions...moms like that usually damage relationships with their crappy advice...just from my experience.

devilmoonkid · Posted: Wed Sep 02, 2009 12:10 pm Post subject:

I'd say it depends who can afford it more!

In my situation, I have a lot less money than my boyfriend, but he has a lot more bills and responsibilities, so he often helps me if I have no money, but when I have enough, I do it. The balance is probably tipped towards him.

I usually visit him because he works fulltime whereas I'm a student with more free time during holidays, its not a competition or anything its just what works best or is more convenient.

Even though our plane flights are not long, since I am in UK and he is in Holland, we can't afford to do it often, so we don't! We let our financial sense prevail over the missing each other. I am leaving Holland in 2 days, and will see him again when he comes over for Christmas.

The one thing I would say is it's none of your mum's business Razz