My girlfriend says shes tired of being so far away

[mikemccreary]

So this is my story, her and i have been together for about 7 months and i convinced her to come live with me in ontario, she lives in quebec. We planned on living at my home for the whole year but one day about a week after she got to my home we went to the beach with 2 of my friends who i have not seen in 2 months. It was fun at first but i wasnt paying enough attention to my gf Julie. I was always just talking to my friends and we were drinking. So long story short, she took me aside and screamed at me on the beach and told me shes never been so hurt in her life from me ignoring her.

anyways the next day when we got back, she was so mad at me that she told me she was going home the next day. It's weird because that day at the beach made me realize that i didnt really want to be with her anymore. the next day when we got back i felt the same and i didnt try to stop her from leaving i just told her if thats what she wants than go ahead.

She ended up staying for about five more days untill she finally left. Those five days i still loved her but for some reason i didnt want her to stay, i felt that it was right for her to leave. we had so much fun like i always do with her for that final week she was with me, everything we did was fun and there was never a dull moment. Still for some reason i didnt try to stop her from leaving.

When she finally left it wasnt sad at all for me but the next day, it hit me like a brick wall. i felt so alone and i suddenly regretted my decision so much. i was such an idiot for letting her go and i couldnt stop crying for the next 4 days. it sucked it was the worst feeling in the world. i begged her to come back and she wanted to but her parents would not let her.

it's been a week since she left and for the past couple of days she's been telling me how tired she is of being so far away from me. today she told me that she was scared that one day shes going to be so sad and tired that she'll just break up with me. i really don't get that because wouldn't that be worse than still being together.

She's a very depressed person and she has anxioty problems but i lover her to death. she can't sleep alone in a bed. it's weird i know but she gets really really scared so she sleeps with her dad most nights.

recently her voice sounds very monotone on the phone and she just never sounds happy, i even try to be positive and make her laugh but it doesn't work very well. She also told me that she feels like she's single in this relationship and she hates not being with me.

i'm very worried about whats going to happen, she says she loves me and misses me but my instincts are telling me that there may be a problem arrising. i also feel bad because i feel like it was all my fault for her leaving because she really didnt want to, her mom did.

I really want her to come back and live with me and i keep telling her to but she says she cant because she has a job and her familly is important to her. she also told me she doesn't know if she can do this ldr much longer but she also says that she loves me and wants to marry me some day.

i'm just so scared of what's going to happen and i can't move to quebec because i lived there with her for a month and it was so hard for me because i can't speak french very well and i was not as confident. she also has a friend that is trying to convince her that i'm not the right guy for her and that she should break up with me. it hurts me because this girl doesn't even know me.

i just need some advice on how to keep her and make her more attracted to me in this ldr. i don't want to lose her it would destroy me. I want her to come home but i feel it will never happen because of my stupidity of not trying to stop her from leaving. What can i do to make her come back?

[man]

I can imagine how bad time she's having with all this; I live in Quebec too the only difference is that my boyfriend lives in another country. I am a depressive person and i always tell my boyfriend the same things: how much i hate not being with him and i'm always sad so that's why I understand your girlfriend.
I understand her family is important; but she has to think deeply and make a decision. Sometimes we love 2 things (family and our beloved one) but we cannot always have them both so we need to make a choice and take a decision... I know it sounds cruel but that's the way it is; her family or you.. If she's choosing her family so at least she should try to be more positive about your relationship, since its her who's taking the decision: choosing one thing for the other.
I love my family too, but if i had the opportunity, i would go far away from this country and move with my boyfriend, anyway.. family is family and I'm always gonna have them nomatterwhat... but my bf, if i leave him alone i can loose him.. so that's what she has to do... if she really loves you, she should go anywhere for you or at least try to solve the situation.

I hope u come to read this soon and u find it helpful.. good luck.

[kylexy]

Make use of technology. You can always call and theres skype. And if its not that far away, maybe you give her a surprise visit?

Thanks,
Kyle - silver bars