Hello everybody, I'm new to the website but an old pro at the LDR. I have been searching for somebody to have the same issue as me but I"m not having any luck (which in the grand scheme of things is great!). So this is my problem...I have been with my husband for 20 years and during that time he has always been away 2 weeks at a time but then home for two weeks. We raised the most terrific man who just left for university last August. And we survived the death of our nine year old daughter seven years ago. I believe we are both still in love and want to be together but being apart is no longer the issue, being together is. I think over the past 20 years we both got extremely used to being alone and we have our separate lives so when we are together things just don't meld together very well. We both feel our "real lives" are being put on hold when we are together so that causes constant turmoil for the two weeks he is home. I often have said it is like having company come very month who stay for two weeks, leave a mess and go on their way. You may be happy to see this person initially but you have things to do that don't include them. Neither of us have ever cheated and I have to be honest, I know I have never wanted to, and I don't believe he has either. I know that the issues we are going through now have always been issues but now since we are empty-nesters in a LDR every problems is multiplied. I'm hoping that somebody out there can help me get my marriage back on track. Retirement is only 15 years away and I would love to be walking around Tuscany with my husband.
Thanks for letting me vent!
The Old Gal
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