Hi,
My SO Mark & I originally met over 20 years ago (he’s in the UK, I was in NJ am now in NY) – we loved each other then, but at the time I had so much pressure from friends and family to end the relationship…eventually I did cave under the pressure and I wound up ripping his heart out in the process. Fast forward to 2009, Mark & I reconnected on FB – I was in a bad marriage & had already decided to leave my husband. Mark & I became friends…after a few months he came to visit and we became more than friends and I’m more in love with him than I ever was 20 years ago & I know he still adores me. We are now, always have been & always will be the loves of each others lives…I have no doubt about that.
He was in a relationship for 12 years & had two beautiful children with his ex. He sees his children every weekend & does his best to get along with his ex. When we first got back together one of his friends had “friended” me on FB & we chatted occasionally I became very comfortable with talking to him and I started confiding a lot of information in him about my relationship. The last time Mark was here we had gone to an immigration attorney, just to get an idea of time, money etc in getting him here permanently…I had told the friend about this and he went back to Mark’s ex. Ever since then it seems she’s been on a mission to come between Mark & his kids and just generally to hurt him. He’s never outright said it, but I’m starting to sense that none of his friends or family support our relationship anymore…I have no doubt about how much he loves me…but I’m so scared he’s going to cave under the pressure, just like I did over 20 years ago. Any advice on how to deal with this?
Thanks
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