Temptations

[Ben]

Hi there,

I am a businessman, always on the move and spending most of my life in hotels accross the country - so it is fair to say that I am pretty much living a LDR with my wife of 3 years...

It is extremely hard, especially at nights, and it is true that I have some temptations being so far away from her so often... Is this wrong? Should I tell her?

[Alchemist]

I go away on business a lot too and to be honest the fantasy of meeting a stranger in a hotel is appealing and has been for a number of years.

That said you've got to balance it out with responsibility - if you're tempted then maybe your wife is too. Is she the kind of person that goes out a lot and when she does do you notice her actions around other attractive men?

Men tend to think that they eye women more than the other way round but for all of my female friends (and unfortunately my girlfiend) I've seen it's more common place, sometimes more meaningful too... we go by looks alone, women attach so much more to the things they view.

Temptation I think is also different for mens and womens needs. Maybe take some time to think about what you'd really get out of a casual encounter next time it comes up? Then balence that against your wife doing the same thing or how she would feel if she found out.

Yeah it might be a boring way out, but then it means that what you have is a good thing...

Hope that helps!

I think that for the women it will be a big strike to know that for some time your body ''belonged'' to another girl even if it means nothing to you.

For men it's more difficult to keep their sexual energy for themselves, so temptations maybe be considered as normal healthy expressions. But just think about you girlfriend, she will be very upset if she knows that and it will pull heavy clouds under your relationship and your feelings.

So it's much more better to hide this, to keep silence and try next time to think about the consequences that might be after such temptations.
hope you'll find a right solution

Maybe I am biased because I am a woman and my fiance is the one off on business, but if you REALLY love your wife then there should be no actual temptation to cheat. For me, thinking what if is different than actually contemplating cheating. Sometimes I dont think that people REALLY know the consequences of their actions. You might know that it will be bad for you if you get caught, but not know how it will affect her relationships with others, how humiliated, betrayed, and frustrating it would be. If you really love her, you will not cheat, no excuses.